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Distress signals meme
Since I have multiply communication issues, I thought it's best to make a post that will clearly state my own particular distress signals - as long as I'm in a state of mind that allows me to do so. Cause: When I'm in a deep trigger episode, it's often that can't bring myself to ask for assistance. I just can't. Verbalizing clearly that I'm in distress is extremely difficult; asking for help is even worse.
I was not even aware that this might be a problem till today,when![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
lovechilde and I talked about the party last week. At the time, I was in quite a bit of distress, and crying often. (although very quietly. I kept going to the bathroom so that the tears will not be obvious. )
But I was not able to say "I"m in distress, please Hagar/Tami/antongarou tell me where there is a safe room here/can I have a hug/food please?
No, I disengaged and pushed the world away.
So, if I do any of the following, it's more likely to be a trigger or emotional issue rather than a physical problem:
1: If I pretend to be asleep, it's my most acute sign of distress. It's Shutting down mode, I can't deal with my surrendering.
2: If I go quite after being engaged, and just sit and stare of listen without contributing a word.
3; If I keep going away to the bathroom. In a good % of those times I use the privacy to cry
4: If I go dizzy. Physically. Or report nausea. All of that will be very real, just from stress.
5: If I suddenly go to sit on the floor just to have a bit of physical connection with someone. That one is the second worst distress signal.
6: If I sit with arms shut down tight in self defense.
That it, I think. It might be reposted from time to time according to need.
I was not even aware that this might be a problem till today,when
lovechilde and I talked about the party last week. At the time, I was in quite a bit of distress, and crying often. (although very quietly. I kept going to the bathroom so that the tears will not be obvious. )But I was not able to say "I"m in distress, please Hagar/Tami/
antongarou tell me where there is a safe room here/can I have a hug/food please? No, I disengaged and pushed the world away.
So, if I do any of the following, it's more likely to be a trigger or emotional issue rather than a physical problem:
1: If I pretend to be asleep, it's my most acute sign of distress. It's Shutting down mode, I can't deal with my surrendering.
2: If I go quite after being engaged, and just sit and stare of listen without contributing a word.
3; If I keep going away to the bathroom. In a good % of those times I use the privacy to cry
4: If I go dizzy. Physically. Or report nausea. All of that will be very real, just from stress.
5: If I suddenly go to sit on the floor just to have a bit of physical connection with someone. That one is the second worst distress signal.
6: If I sit with arms shut down tight in self defense.
That it, I think. It might be reposted from time to time according to need.